About Frank

I didn't arrive at this work through credentials alone. I arrived through collapse, through ache, through the slow erosion of a self that once worked.

I've lived the patterns I write about. The over functioning. The chronic misattunement. The soul fatigue.

I've been the person who overfunctioned and showed up competent but invisible. And I've been the one who burned others: the reactive one, the one who offered advice when none was asked for, the stubborn one, and the avoidant.

I've lived on both sides of the fire.

I've done the hard work of breaking those patterns and building something different.

My work stands on attachment science, polyvagal theory, somatic psychology, and existential philosophy. The frameworks I use (Internal Family Systems, schema therapy, neuroscience informed approaches) are the schematics I used to understand my own steel and the tools I bring to the Anvil with me.

I've worked with dozens of therapists and cherish what they helped me do.

Therapy gave me language, space to grieve, and tools to understand my nervous system.

But something was missing. I needed someone to sit in the mess with me and give honest feedback. I needed therapy to process and coaching to do the work.

I became what was missing: a Co-Smith. Someone who stands at the Anvil with you, calls the pattern as it emerges, and helps you strike when the steel is hot.

I work in high stakes environments where clarity and relational integrity matter. I've learned to read people: their words and the layers beneath. The hesitations. The patterns. The places where story and action diverge.

My approach: I meet you where you are and hold you accountable to where you say you want to go. I listen. I ask hard questions. I help you turn insight into practice and competence into presence.

I've learned pain can be fuel. The grief can be clarity. The loneliness can be a compass and the ache is a map.

If you're tired of what is;
Let's forge something else.

I wrote a book about this framework. The Forge is a complete guide to the metallurgical metaphor of transformation: how to use your pain as fuel, shape your patterns, and build the relationships you're longing for. Learn more about the book.